Nuzforum LGBTQA+ Thread!

[Captain Demozan]

Huh. Strange how I never found out about this thread until recently, but I've learned about it now, so... Heya, everyone. I'm Demozan, a genderfaun (a variation of genderfluid that only encompasses male and non-binary genders) bisexual homoromantic guy. I think guys are really cute and I wish I was dating one rn.

My pronouns are He/Him, They/Them, and a neopronoun set of Zan/Zangoose. Also unrelated but I really really like Puyo Puyo and I want everyone to know that.

 

[sky_]

hello i realise i haven't introduced myself on here

hi i am sky and i am n-b and bi, i'm closeted to a lot of people due to my family/upbringing as well as many other things

me being bi mainly manifests in me very shyly thinking someone is super cute and being like "this cool person complimented me? aaaaaa" at points sdfhdsf

 

[pinkshellos]

Happy pride month everyone!!
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

 

[Kit_The_Feef]

Welp, I only just noticed this thread and Pride month is over... I'm trans, ace and homoromantic. (I used to think I was bi, but then I got a girlfriend and we broke up after 3 days because I realised I didn't like girls.) For a while, I went by the aromantic label, but I think that was mostly due to internalised homophobia and transphobia. I'm probably still on the aro spectrum, but I think I like guys. (It probably seems weird to post on here when the thread hasn't been active for a while, but I'm new so... Sorry?)

 

[Neb]

After a year of thinking I realized I am gender fluid too. Experimenting with different types of clothes and looking back at my past helped. I love wearing casual dresses. Unfortunately I had to deal with some pushback.

Spoiler: Transphobia warning

When I went to a 2019 pride event in gender affirming clothing I was harassed. I got stares everywhere, not to mention nasty comments like “pieces of shit like him are why we’re treated poorly.” I was literally just leaving a restaurant. This was in a very progressive city too. I spent several years living in a politically divided area. If I could be treated so poorly in a progressive city, I don’t want to imagine what would happen in a small town. Thankfully I’m moving to said city in a few weeks. I’ll still deal with comments like what happened at the pride event, but at least there will be more options there.

In spite of that, I’m going to try to dress the way I want to. If I’m having a masculine day I’ll wear pants and button up shirts. If there’s a feminine day, I’ll go all out with concealer and dresses. I might save up the money for a high quality wig too…

 

[YumeTsuki]

Only just saw this thread today, and figured I'd drop by. I'm Ace and Demiromantic.

I'm not exactly hiding my orientation, but I usually also do not care about people knowing my orientation so i don't really talk much about it to people.
Occasionally I get the "You'll get over that ;)" kind of remarks when I mention it, I'll just shrug them off.

Spoiler: Ranting about transphobia

Even then I'm super aware it's not always sunshine and rainbows for everyone, even in that tiny progressive country of mine. I've been together for 9 years now with my Girlfriend. The day she realised she wasn't feeling comfortable with her gender was the start of what would not be an easy journey. While I was totally fine with it all, since her happiness is more important to me than anything else, not everyone took it as well as I did.

The moment she came out to my family was honestly one of the most infuriating moments I had to be witness of. While they always had presented an open and accepting stance to the whole LGBTQAA+ spectrum, they hadn't considered what it's like to have it actually in the family. And it felt more like it was a sudden fear of reputation being damaged than anything else. Like sure, they used exuses like "You're going to get bullied over this, if you stay with her." Sure, I had to deal with bullying in the past over pettier things where i stood my ground for my own opinions. But at least I'm not standing alone with this. It feels like the only reason they are putting up with it all now is because they do not want to see me leave, and never turn back.

And then theres the next hurdle, the actual transitioning. While our country is selling itself as very open and progressive, heck we even have our own pride event in the month of July, there only exists one single place ONE hospital where you can get all your stuff arranged. I can at least say... It's something... I guess? It's better than nothing, but still it's the bare hecking minimum. Not to mention how selective the program is as well. Several mental examinations spanned over months to make sure you're making 'the right choice'. Sure, I get it, theres the "what if you regret, this is difficult to reverse" but hey... So is puberty, but no one stops to think about that because that's "natural" i guess. I had to come in and talk with the psychiatrist as well as an extra point of confirmation. Their questions to me became super personal and invasive as well... Like... My answers to those questions would and should technically not have mattered for the entire intake, those questions felt more like giving a sort of secondary permission to go on with the transitioning program. In any case, she managed to pass. The long waiting lists are annoying. Everything is like a whole long-ass waiting game spanning months or even years. The situation honestly looks deplorable even when I'm just watching from the sidelines.

 

[Kit_The_Feef]

Only just saw this thread today, and figured I'd drop by. I'm Ace and Demiromantic.

I'm not exactly hiding my orientation, but I usually also do not care about people knowing my orientation so i don't really talk much about it to people.
Occasionally I get the "You'll get over that ;)" kind of remarks when I mention it, I'll just shrug them off.

Spoiler: Ranting about transphobia

Even then I'm super aware it's not always sunshine and rainbows for everyone, even in that tiny progressive country of mine. I've been together for 9 years now with my Girlfriend. The day she realised she wasn't feeling comfortable with her gender was the start of what would not be an easy journey. While I was totally fine with it all, since her happiness is more important to me than anything else, not everyone took it as well as I did.

The moment she came out to my family was honestly one of the most infuriating moments I had to be witness of. While they always had presented an open and accepting stance to the whole LGBTQAA+ spectrum, they hadn't considered what it's like to have it actually in the family. And it felt more like it was a sudden fear of reputation being damaged than anything else. Like sure, they used exuses like "You're going to get bullied over this, if you stay with her." Sure, I had to deal with bullying in the past over pettier things where i stood my ground for my own opinions. But at least I'm not standing alone with this. It feels like the only reason they are putting up with it all now is because they do not want to see me leave, and never turn back.

And then theres the next hurdle, the actual transitioning. While our country is selling itself as very open and progressive, heck we even have our own pride event in the month of July, there only exists one single place ONE hospital where you can get all your stuff arranged. I can at least say... It's something... I guess? It's better than nothing, but still it's the bare hecking minimum. Not to mention how selective the program is as well. Several mental examinations spanned over months to make sure you're making 'the right choice'. Sure, I get it, theres the "what if you regret, this is difficult to reverse" but hey... So is puberty, but no one stops to think about that because that's "natural" i guess. I had to come in and talk with the psychiatrist as well as an extra point of confirmation. Their questions to me became super personal and invasive as well... Like... My answers to those questions would and should technically not have mattered for the entire intake, those questions felt more like giving a sort of secondary permission to go on with the transitioning program. In any case, she managed to pass. The long waiting lists are annoying. Everything is like a whole long-ass waiting game spanning months or even years. The situation honestly looks deplorable even when I'm just watching from the sidelines.

It sounds like your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. And I’m also very painfully aware of long waiting lists and medical gatekeeping. It’s a struggle. It’s also nice to see that she’s at least getting support from you, if no-one else.

 

[pinkshellos]

As of today, me and my girlfriend have been dating for six months! 💜
It’s been incredible. We’re both very shy and awkward people but the progress we’ve made when it comes to being super comfortable and happy around each other warms my heart. I would quite literally give her the world.

However, it comes with some mixed feelings because as of yesterday she’s now unsure when she’s going to be able to start transitioning because of the hellstorm that is unsupportive family and insurance/medical costs. Originally she was looking at early September and we were both really hopeful but now it looks like late November at the absolute earliest if everything goes well with her family. Curse the US and its shitty privatized healthcare system.

On the bright side, we’re both going to be moving out very soon to a different city where she’ll be able to be herself a whole lot more. I’ve hatched a plan to split the cost of getting her ears pierced between myself and some friends for her birthday because she’s been talking about wanting to wear earrings. I genuinely cannot wait to see her reaction to the two pairs of earrings I bought her, they’re both so cute!!

 

[aegagrusScholarship]

oh hey, gay thread!

um. i mean. heya there. only just noticed this thread, actually, despite my history of stalking this site before i got my account. still, hell yeah, pride thread. i'm, uh, aroace agender (although i often refer to myself as enby regardless, but yeah. specifically agender). a triple-A battery if you may. i use all the pronouns, but if you have no idea what to use you can just default to they/them. i will cry (in a good way) if you use neopronouns for me. uh, yeah, that's about it.

 

[Memesy]

Just noticed this thread and thought why not? Why shouldn't I revive it?
Another AAA battery here (aro-ace agender, that is)
Glad to meet all of you.

 

[Coffeemon]

Hi everyone! I'm Coffee, a nonbinary lesbian, they/them.

I just discovered this thread today and read through it, and it's just the pick me up I needed today. I hope ya'll don't mind me sharing this: I joined the forums back in 2015 and was very much straight at the time, though the questioning thoughts were there. I admit this forum helped a lot in being comfortable with the coming out phase because funnily enough, some gay characters from fan runs here are my first introduction to the whole sexuality and gender thing (thanks for my gender pokemon LMAO).

 

[Chess]

be gay do crimes

 

[Scarvi]

Uh, hey everyone!

I’m Scarvi, and I identify as nonbinary, although I have recently felt like I might be trans as well. I came out as nonbinary a few months ago, but now I’m kinda confused and nervous since I’m not entirely sure how to identify. Seeing this thread does bring me some comfort tho. I hope you all have a nice day!

 

[Sheepscope]

Uh, hey everyone!

I’m Scarvi, and I identify as nonbinary, although I have recently felt like I might be trans as well. I came out as nonbinary a few months ago, but now I’m kinda confused a nervous since I’m not entirely sure how to identify. Seeing this thread does bring me some comfort tho. I hope you all have a nice day!

If it helps you any, James Stephanie Sterling (who runs a show called the Jimquisition) is a nonbinary feminine person who's had HRT. Whatever you figure out about your identity, we've got your back!

 

[Scarvi]

If it helps you any, James Stephanie Sterling (who runs a show called the Jimquisition) is a nonbinary feminine person who's had HRT. Whatever you figure out about your identity, we've got your back!

That does help a little. Thanks!

 

[Hallow]

Uh, hey everyone!

I’m Scarvi, and I identify as nonbinary, although I have recently felt like I might be trans as well. I came out as nonbinary a few months ago, but now I’m kinda confused and nervous since I’m not entirely sure how to identify. Seeing this thread does bring me some comfort tho. I hope you all have a nice day!

i'm 2+ years into HRT and hoping to schedule a bottom surgery consult soon, and i'm still just as nonbinary as i was when i first came out to myself ~5 years ago. above all, whatever feels right is right! and that can always change later! gender is a wonderful thing to explore and it can take a very long time to really figure everything out.

 

[Scarvi]

Hey everyone. So, after a few days of long thought, occasional looking at the forums, and calm thinking, I have decided that I identify as transgender! I plan to tell my friends/family soon, but I wanted to let you all know since it was this community that gave me the support to make this decision. Thank you all! :3

 

[Rubombee]

Hey everyone. So, after a few days of long thought, occasional looking at the forums, and calm thinking, I have decided that I identify as transgender! I plan to tell my friends/family soon, but I wanted to let you all know since it was this community that gave me the support to make this decision. Thank you all! :3

that's great i'm so glad for you!!
also, uh, pardon the semi-unrelated post but it seems i can't reply to your profile post for some reason—

I’m canceling Vexing Violet. It took me way too long to get the photos from my Switch to my files to the forums, and I don’t want it to take super long. I’m sorry!

not gonna talk you into picking up your run again of course, it's totes fine to cancel stuff for any reason, but i'm just wondering... have you been using the QR code/"send to smart device" feature to bring them over?

asking because there are much easier ways to transfer pictures – namely, if you have a microsd card, you can put it directly into your computer (with a microsd adaptator thingy) and get your entire album this way; and if you have windows you can also transfer pictures with a usb cable!
(telling you just in case, as i have seen people who were using the qr code method without knowing about the other, much easier ways to do this)

 

[Martinita]

I'm a trans non-binary woman who is also bisexual and in a long-term relationship with another woman. I came out years ago, so these days it's just a normal part of life for me, but I just wanted to pop in and say hi to all the other gays doing crimes!

 

[Polteaghost]

I'm trans :)